If you aren’t getting the results you want in an area of your life, take a look at your behaviours. Are they helping you or hindering you? If you are up for the challenge take a step further back and examine the underlying belief that is generating the behaviour.
If you really want to make changes in your life, this is a very important equation to learn and more importantly, to implement.
My clients challenge me on this and ask, “Why should I examine my beliefs? I just want to spend less/save more.”
A belief is an assumed truth that we then make our reality; our beliefs become self fulfilling prophecies. So if life is going well for us then our beliefs are working and we don’t need or want to examine them; we may not even be aware of what the underlying belief is.
Let’s look at an example. I have a belief that exercise is good for me. So even though it occasionally causes me physical pain (particularly after a personal training session), I don’t question or challenge my belief because I know I have more energy on the days that I exercise and I know my health is much better than my pre-exercise days. My belief is working for me. Continue reading →
Our beliefs, or our view of the world starts with our early childhood memories. We learn from our parents, our environment and form our own beliefs from those observations. So what are your earliest memory’s of money? How do you think that has impacted on how you relate to money now in your adult life?
My earliest memories of money revolve around the word ‘No’. No I couldn’t have the umbrella with the pink frill; the must have winter fashion accessory for a 4 year old. No, I couldn’t have a Barbie doll, they were too expensive, so I got the imitation one instead.
My parents were (and still are) very careful with their money, they were quite frugal in day to day expenditure but that meant that there was money set aside for our holidays and should any emergency crop up.
Their goal was to be mortgage free, as they hated any sort of debt and over the years they achieved that goal.
Our beliefs, not just about money, but on how we use language, our view of the world all starts with our early childhood memories and the beliefs we formed from those observations. So what is your earliest memory of money, and how do you think that has impacted on how you relate to money now in your adult life?
My earliest memories of money revolve around the word ‘No’. No I couldn’t have the pink umbrella with the pink frill the must have winter fashion accessory for a 4 year old. No, I couldn’t have a Barbie doll, they were too expensive, and so I got the imitation one instead.
My parents goal was to own their own home mortgage free, and to their credit they achieved that. But it did mean we moved house a lot and each time we traded down, so the mortgage kept getting smaller. By the time I was at university they were debt free and have been ever since. Continue reading →